For me, the issue, I tend to keep in the dark, is my belief that eventually, all will be reconciled to God. I read years ago in 2 Corinthians chapter 5 that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto Himself, NOT inputting their sins unto them. If God does not input our sins to us, and God has reconciled us to Himself, how can anyone be lost forever? Why would God give infinite punishment for a finite crime? Why would someone be lost for being born in the wrong religion or country? There are few people I can discuss this with. My change in belief started with the belief in eternal security. I lost my position as an elder and had to leave a church for believing in the security of the believer. What would they do to me, if they knew that I believe in the restitution of all things? The church I now attend is more inclusive so I might be okay, but I still watch what I share.